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How to Deal with Your Social Anxiety and Shyness

Social Anxiety; What it looks like, what is the cause of it, how we cope with it and steps to shift it…

Social anxiety or social phobia creates the following labels about you: withdrawn, aloof, shy, timid, quiet, awkward, nervous and fearful. Others might perceive you as disinterested, arrogant, judgmental or snobbish. Your fear results from….

5 Tips To Release Your Sadness (and Let Your Life Be Joyful)

Have you noticed how babies cry with ease? They don’t have any filters, images or ideas about themselves. They don’t think about what their sadness could mean. They are just expressing what is in the here and now. You see, a baby cries in the moment without thinking: ‘I will not look good when I cry.’, without analyzing: ‘Is this a good time to cry or will I upset someone?’, without judging: ‘I should …

How to Be Kind and True to Yourself (or From Compromise to Compassion)

We have learned (and finding loads of literature) about the goodness of compromise – the art of compromise. We believe that compromising will get us ahead in life. We mistake compromise for love. We think great relationships need compromise. We all grew up with this belief system. We drank it in our mother milk.
But does that mean it is true?

How to Live Your True Purpose (and Go Beyond Your Doubts and Obstacles)

“All my life I have looked for a meaning. I ran once around the world, looking for it everywhere, missing the Olympic Games by 0.45 seconds. I spent 400 dollars on the suit for my first interview. I have lived on 400 dollars a month. I cleaned toilets. I cried and screamed in therapy. I made friends and I lost sight of them. I stayed in five star hotels and I put myself in a mental hospital. I fell in love many times. I had my heart broken the same amount of times. And was always on the run – looking for the answer: What am I here for?

How to End Shame and Stress about Facial Hair or any Body Issue!

Do you have facial hairs and feel ashamed of them? Is there a part of your body you dislike and want to change?
Some of us experience body shame which is an extreme form of negative body image. Maybe you believe that you can’t love your body or that you are not worthy to be loved just the way you are…

Develop Self Love (and Strengthen Your Relationship)

‘It’s not your job to like me; it’s MINE!’ Byron Katie

Love is to be nurtured within yourself. Self love doesn’t require the presence of the other.

Once you know what love is about, you are free to love. Then love becomes a natural expression of yourself and is no longer something you are looking for or feel you are lacking.

The 3 Most Significant Tips to Drop Your Negative Self Image

We all have it: that imaginary picture in our head of ‘Who we think we are’. Thoughts of our self image make us feel either happy or bad about ourselves. Often they circle around in our head while we add non stop commentary. In reality, thoughts pass through the mind and don’t need to mean anything about ‘who we are’. A thought just comes and goes…

How to Love Your Parents as an Adult (even if they Are Getting on Your Nerves)

“Why can she just not stop telling me what to do as if I am 6 years old (I am actually 47)? Being back home at my parents place is the ultimate test. No matter how much I prepare or tell myself that this time I will not be triggered and react – there she is again in full flavor: my mum. Again she is telling me: ‘You must eat your eggs without salt.’ Next thing I know is her shoving …

How to Be at Ease Spending Money (Understanding Your Money Emotions)

Money emotions such as greed and fear determine our lives. We believe that we cannot survive without money. Anger, shame, panic and depression are influencing your mind, stress level, spending habits and overall happiness level 24/7. The reason for all of this is that …

How to Overcome Fear and Anxiety Instantly (and to Live Happily Ever After)

“Oh shit was the first thought I used to wake up to almost every morning. This first thought led to another and immediately my mind started racing in comparing myself to everybody. I should get up earlier, work harder, have a partner, a family  and a house, be more aware, look healthier and younger.”

How to be Free of Shame and Guilt with Masturbation

“When I was 8 years old, my mom and dad walked into my room, while I was rubbing myself on a pillow. I had no idea that there I did something ‘wrong’ – that it was shameful and not to be done. But I immediately knew it in that moment. I saw it in their eyes and body movements before they even spoke the words: ‘What are you doing? That‘s just simply not done! Stop doing that!’”

ShoomKloom New Year’s Tool Kit(14 Treasures To Live Life From Fulfillment)

Do you wonder why it is so difficult to keep your New Year Resolutions? What often happens is that you start off with plenty of enthusiasm and commitment. But after a while, you become demotivated and old habits creep in. This is because your thoughts and beliefs are so powerful. One single thought has the power to

How to Make Sure You are Having a Great Date (or not)

“Tomorrow I have a date with a man I really like. So I want this date to be really good. If it is perfect … everything will be wonderful. We will date again, be a couple, get married and walk off into the sunset … or so the story goes. That has been my romantic dream all my life.”
Most of us have a lot of expectations when we are having a date. We want…

How Not to Feel Lonely in a Crowd (or From Loneliness to Lioness)

„When I actutally did go out on my own -it was agony. I was so self consious that each minute felt like a century. Maybe now you are wondering: ‘Why did you do this to yourself? Didn’t you have any friends? Or, maybe something was really wrong with you.’ Here’s the answer: I have always been someone who wanted to conquer herself, her fears and …

How to Master Rejection (and Let it Guide You to Be Fully Alive)

“The crazy thing is that I didn’t know it. I really thought that I was the one constantly being rejected (mostly by men). That I just wasn’t sexy enough, or too much or whatever story I could come up with. I didn’t see that in my fear of rejection I was being harsh and unfriendly. I was pushing the people away who just wanted to be close to me. I played my games (of being a true bitch) so that nothing and nobody could hurt me. And to top it all I thought of myself as … “

How to Stop Believing ‘I am not good enough’ (and See that it Is a Ridiculous Lie)

‘I am not good enough’ has been my mantra throughout my life. Really! This thought I wrapped around myself like a precious piece of clothing. It acted like a filter through which I would perceive myself in all kind of circumstances: meeting a men, thinking I am not attractive or engaging enough. At work, thinking …

How to Heal Your Broken Heart Today (and Find True Love)

When your heart is broken it can feel to you like you are dying. I remember break-ups in my life where I really thought that this is what the end would feel like. How little did I know that I could not be further away from truth.

How to Stand up for Yourself at Work

“I’ve always been a horrible team player. So to change that I learned loads about consensus, compromise and collaboration. But truth is that none of this stuff ever really worked for me. It all turned out to be empty promises of a shore I would never see (getting pretty poetic here).

How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Comparison really sucks! Maybe a blunt statement but I am speaking here from my own experiences. I have been in agony comparing myself to others and created stress for no reason. When I see this comparison from a distance; it is easy to tell myself: ‘WHAT ARE YOU DOING? JUST STOP IT!’

How to Avoid the Christmas Blues

I cherish the feeling of the Christmas season, the flickering streetlights lightening up the winter darkness, the smell of wood fires and Christmas trees, the coziness of a decorated home…But don’t you just hate the whole media hype around Christmas? Those layers of expectation, more and more presents and glittery clothes to buy and having to make that day one of the best days of the year.

Mindfulness: Making Peace with Thoughts and Feelings

Lost in the perceptions of reality: In my teens, my insecurities blew totally out of proportion. Thoughts like ‘I am stupid, I am ugly, nobody likes me, nobody understands me’ were constantly catapulted through my mind. I didn’t really have any understanding, perception or even seeing what is real. I remember that so many things were overwhelming me. For sure I believed every single thought I had about myself was true and consequently I experienced …

Develop Self Love (and Strengthen Your Relationship)

‘It’s not your job to like me; it’s MINE!’ Byron Katie

Love is to be nurtured within yourself. Self love doesn’t require the presence of the other.

Once you know what love is about, you are free to love. Then love becomes a natural expression of yourself and is no longer something you are looking for or feel you are lacking.

read more

How to Live Your True Purpose (and Go Beyond Your Doubts and Obstacles)

“All my life I have looked for a meaning. I ran once around the world, looking for it everywhere, missing the Olympic Games by 0.45 seconds. I spent 400 dollars on the suit for my first interview. I have lived on 400 dollars a month. I cleaned toilets. I cried and screamed in therapy. I made friends and I lost sight of them. I stayed in five star hotels and I put myself in a mental hospital. I fell in love many times. I had my heart broken the same amount of times. And was always on the run – looking for the answer: What am I here for?

read more

5 Tips To Release Your Sadness (and Let Your Life Be Joyful)

Have you noticed how babies cry with ease? They don’t have any filters, images or ideas about themselves. They don’t think about what their sadness could mean. They are just expressing what is in the here and now. You see, a baby cries in the moment without thinking: ‘I will not look good when I cry.’, without analyzing: ‘Is this a good time to cry or will I upset someone?’, without judging: ‘I should …

read more

How to Be Kind and True to Yourself (or From Compromise to Compassion)

We have learned (and finding loads of literature) about the goodness of compromise – the art of compromise. We believe that compromising will get us ahead in life. We mistake compromise for love. We think great relationships need compromise. We all grew up with this belief system. We drank it in our mother milk.
But does that mean it is true?

read more

The 3 Most Significant Tips to Drop Your Negative Self Image

We all have it: that imaginary picture in our head of ‘Who we think we are’. Thoughts of our self image make us feel either happy or bad about ourselves. Often they circle around in our head while we add non stop commentary. In reality, thoughts pass through the mind and don’t need to mean anything about ‘who we are’. A thought just comes and goes…

read more

How to Master Rejection (and Let it Guide You to Be Fully Alive)

“The crazy thing is that I didn’t know it. I really thought that I was the one constantly being rejected (mostly by men). That I just wasn’t sexy enough, or too much or whatever story I could come up with. I didn’t see that in my fear of rejection I was being harsh and unfriendly. I was pushing the people away who just wanted to be close to me. I played my games (of being a true bitch) so that nothing and nobody could hurt me. And to top it all I thought of myself as … “

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